E is for…

by Judy Klipin

…Ebb and Flow

Like the sea, life is an endless cycle of tides coming in and going out.

All aspects of our lives – relationships, work, money, health, growth, – go through cycles of good and bad.

When we can see that life is one big cycle of change, with countless smaller cycles within that, we can accept that change is inevitable.  We can trust that good times follow bad, and bad times follow good.  Nothing stays the same.

When we accept that change is inevitable, we can appreciate the cycles, just as we appreciate the tides of the sea.

…E Q (Emotional Intelligence)

We all know that it is possible to be very intellectually clever, while being emotionally switched off and disconnected.

But it is also possible – especially amongst adult children – for our emotional intelligence to turn into emotional unintelligence.  We are so emotionally tuned-in to the people around us that we put their needs (whether they are actually real or we imagine them to be real) above our own.  When we are tuned-in to others and tuned-out to ourselves; we become ‘others-centred.

To be truly emotionally intelligent, we need to be able to read and respond to our needs, as well as to the needs of others.

…Everybody

‘Everybody’ is the stick we use to beat ourselves with.  The reason we can’t allow ourselves to do what feels right, to make new choices, to follow our dreams.

“What will everybody think/say/do?” we ask ourselves.  “Everybody will be horrified,” we think.

There is no such thing as ‘everybody’ – it is a creation of your own fear.  Everybody consists of a lot of different people, all with their own thoughts and value systems, none of which have anything to do with you.

Do what you want and need to do and don’t worry about how others will receive it.  Because, truthfully, nobody cares as much as you think you will!

…Expectation

Many of us think that by expecting the worst, we are preparing ourselves to deal with disappointment.

But our expectations determine our outcome. The more we expect of and for ourselves -and others – the more we receive.  And the less we expect, the less we get.

Keying into your emotional intelligence will help you to raise your expectations for yourself, silence the fears about how ‘everybody’ will respond to your choices, so you can enjoy the ebb and flow of your life.

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