Blogs tagged with "burnout":

Sometimes the Best Thing You Can Do for Yourself Is Nothing

Sometimes the Best Thing You Can Do for Yourself Is Nothing

You know that feeling of overwhelm? Of having so much to do that you don’t know where to start? Of realising that it is June already, even though it feels like January has just started? That “there’s-too-much-to-do-and-not-enough-time-to-do-it-in-and-I-have-to-do-more-be-more-say-more-earn-more-play-more-love-more-laugh-more-exercise-more-lose-more-weight-eat-fewer-carbs-and-still-be-happy”...

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Is Your Relationship Burning Out?

Is Your Relationship Burning Out?

Relationships, just like people, are living, breathing entities and are therefore vulnerable to the same complexities and challenges that individuals experience. Burnout is a modern condition that is increasingly prevalent amongst people and relationships – not just romantic relationships (although...

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Express Yourself

Express Yourself

Burnout is a horrible, debilitating condition that we need to understand better so we can manage and prevent it better. Not just the physical manifestations of it, but the thoughts, beliefs and behaviours that give rise to it. I am often asked why people get burnout. There are countless factors that...

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Burnout: A Dying of Your Light

Burnout: A Dying of Your Light

You know that feeling when you wake up and it feels like you haven’t had enough sleep – no matter how many hours ago you went to bed? Or that experience of being less articulate than usual: you know that you know the words you are looking for but you just can’t seem to find them? Or that...

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How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything

If you are anything like me (and the rest of the world), you have a few little habits that are microscopic reflections of your way of being in the world more broadly. Perhaps more than a few… If you pick one – any one – smallish habit you will see how it is reflected in bigger ways in other parts...

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Could Do (Even) Better

Do you remember coming home from school with your report card? In my day we used to spend much of the last day of school decorating the envelopes that they were sent home in. I spent a lot of time trying to make that envelope so eye-catching that it would take attention away from the content of the...

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Don’t Forget to Remember Yourself

How many times have you got into bed at night and remembered that you forgot to do something you promised yourself that morning? Many of us spend all of our waking moments thinking about others, listening to others and doing things for others. It is often only in the calm and quiet that descends when...

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Don’t Let Burnout Run Away with You

A couple of weeks ago I was a guest on a radio show. We were talking about Burnout. I have stopped being amazed by the number of people who listen to and call in on late night radio (I was on from 10 – 11pm) so the constant stream of calls and text messages did not surprise me, although I was a...

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Just Say No! to Burnout

There are many wonderful things about being an adult child (we are loyal, responsible, reliable, good problem-solvers, good in a crisis and self-effacing). Burnout is not one of them. Burnout is a state of exhaustion, of overwhelm, of ‘having nothing left to give.’ Burnout leaves us feeling...

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P is for….

...Peace and Quiet We lead such busy lives that often the only time we are still is when we are sleeping.  But that means that we don’t make any space for ourselves to be still and reflect – to stop and take stock.  That is how it gets to be the 1st of July without our noticing April, May and...

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O is for…

...Others-centred The opposite of self-centred, when we are others-centred we put everybody else first and ourselves last.  We do what others expect of us  - or what we think others expect of us.  We feel responsible for others.  We consider others before we consider ourselves. It is exhausting...

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Trust the Process

One of my mantras is “Don’t panic.  Trust the process.  All will be well.” I say it to myself, and others, regularly.  So often, in fact, that I have often thought that I should print a bunch of bumper stickers that say “Trust the Process.” I know it.  I believe it.  I try to live it. But...

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Re-entry Issues and Burnout

I truly believe that burnout is verging on epidemic proportions and is under-recognised as the scourge that it is. I will get off my soap box for now (I have developed a 6 week burnout recovery self-study programme in case you are interested in finding out more about how to regain and maintain your own...

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I is for…

I The word ‘life’ has the letter I in the centre.  Which is exactly where we should be in our own lives. This does not come naturally to adult children, who tend to be what I call ‘others-centred’ – we put others at the centre of our lives and ourselves on the outside, looking in. Looking...

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The Spirit is Willing…..

I am tired.  The kind of happy, contented, feel-good tired that comes from coaching up a storm all day. When I first started coaching my plan for myself was to see 15 clients a week and run one weekend workshop a month.  I was quite put out when one of the coach trainers told me that I was being too...

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Pick Yourself Up

I am a little preoccupied with the notion of burnout at the moment. Possibly because so many of my clients seem to be in its grip. Possibly because I see a direct correlation between being an adult child and being prone to burnout. Possibly because I seem to be flirting with burnout again. Probably...

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Regaining and Maintaining Your Energy After Burnout

It is halfway through the year already and it is time to take stock of energy levels.  Here is a quick quiz to help you assess if you have - or are approaching - burnout: Are you beginning to resent your family, friends and/or co-workers because you feel that you look after everyone else and don't...

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Adult Children and Burnout

I spent most of March resting.  I was supposed to go to America but was grounded by my ear (please see previous blog post!). I found myself at home with nearly three weeks blocked out of my diary. For about three seconds I considered filling the time with work and then I was overwhelmed by a need...

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