Blogs tagged with "others-centred.":

Burnout Makes Us Feel Hapless, Hopeless and Helpless

Burnout Makes Us Feel Hapless, Hopeless and Helpless

We all have moments in our lives when we feel a little at sea and as though we have lost our way. When we feel as though we are bobbing around; isolated, lonely and afraid. When we question many of our life choices: work, love, friendships… Like a boat in a storm. We don’t know where we are going...

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Sometimes the Best Thing You Can Do for Yourself Is Nothing

Sometimes the Best Thing You Can Do for Yourself Is Nothing

You know that feeling of overwhelm? Of having so much to do that you don’t know where to start? Of realising that it is June already, even though it feels like January has just started? That “there’s-too-much-to-do-and-not-enough-time-to-do-it-in-and-I-have-to-do-more-be-more-say-more-earn-more-play-more-love-more-laugh-more-exercise-more-lose-more-weight-eat-fewer-carbs-and-still-be-happy”...

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Burnout: A Dying of Your Light

Burnout: A Dying of Your Light

You know that feeling when you wake up and it feels like you haven’t had enough sleep – no matter how many hours ago you went to bed? Or that experience of being less articulate than usual: you know that you know the words you are looking for but you just can’t seem to find them? Or that...

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Don’t Forget to Remember Yourself

How many times have you got into bed at night and remembered that you forgot to do something you promised yourself that morning? Many of us spend all of our waking moments thinking about others, listening to others and doing things for others. It is often only in the calm and quiet that descends when...

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O is for…

...Others-centred The opposite of self-centred, when we are others-centred we put everybody else first and ourselves last.  We do what others expect of us  - or what we think others expect of us.  We feel responsible for others.  We consider others before we consider ourselves. It is exhausting...

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I is for…

I The word ‘life’ has the letter I in the centre.  Which is exactly where we should be in our own lives. This does not come naturally to adult children, who tend to be what I call ‘others-centred’ – we put others at the centre of our lives and ourselves on the outside, looking in. Looking...

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E is for…

…Ebb and Flow Like the sea, life is an endless cycle of tides coming in and going out. All aspects of our lives – relationships, work, money, health, growth, - go through cycles of good and bad. When we can see that life is one big cycle of change, with countless smaller cycles within that,...

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Telling My Own Story

One of the recurring themes in my practice is working with my clients to help them to identify where they are being ‘others-centred.’  Where they are putting other people’s needs (real or imagined) above their own.  We all do it  - try to look after others at our own expense.  We don’t mean...

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Adult Children and Burnout

I spent most of March resting.  I was supposed to go to America but was grounded by my ear (please see previous blog post!). I found myself at home with nearly three weeks blocked out of my diary. For about three seconds I considered filling the time with work and then I was overwhelmed by a need...

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