Blogs tagged with "relationships":

Mind Your Own Business

Mind Your Own Business

Byron Katie says that there are three kinds of business: my business, your business and God’s business. She says that much of our discomfort and anxiety comes from getting out of our own business, or allowing others into ours. When we are in God’s business, we are concerning ourselves with things...

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Dump the Situationship for a REALationship

Dump the Situationship for a REALationship

I love the concept of a ‘situationship’ (actually I don’t love the concept so much as I love the name for the concept): not a relationship, not a friendship, but an ill-defined situation that exists between two people. We’ve all been there and done that. We’ve met someone who made our heart...

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Is Your Relationship Burning Out?

Is Your Relationship Burning Out?

Relationships, just like people, are living, breathing entities and are therefore vulnerable to the same complexities and challenges that individuals experience. Burnout is a modern condition that is increasingly prevalent amongst people and relationships – not just romantic relationships (although...

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Resentment: Relationship Poison (and Its Antidote)

Resentment: Relationship Poison (and Its Antidote)

Keith pulls into his driveway after a long day at work. A sense of dread and disappointment descends; his mother-in-law’s car is there. Again. For the third time this week. And it is only Wednesday. Anna overhears her boyfriend inviting 12 of his closest friends to come over for a few drinks and...

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Good Boundaries Make for Good Relationships

Good Boundaries Make for Good Relationships

Imagine you had a neighbour who was always trying to tell how you to run your life; how to hang your laundry better, when to prune your roses, what colour to paint your walls. I’m guessing you’d find it pretty irritating and intrusive. Or if the person who lived next door was literally oblivious...

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Survivor Self and Love

Survivor Self and Love

Why is that so many adult children people find it difficult to be in an intimate relationship? A staggering proportion of people struggle to find love. Almost as staggering is the struggle to stay in love in a healthy way. Type ‘why can’t I find love?’ into Google and you will get 592 000...

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Valentine’s Day Blues

The sight of Valentine’s Day paraphernalia in shops can be a little depressing.  The in-your-faceness of all that enforced romance is hard enough for people who have an ‘other half’ (be that half better, worse or indifferent). But for people who are not-so-happily unattached, all that stuff is...

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What’s in a name?

I often struggle with knowing how to name and describe what I do.  'Coach' is such a loose term; there are so many different kinds of coaches and so many different approaches to and philosophies of coaching. Many of them I am deeply respectful of.  Some, unfortunately, I am deeply suspicious of. (I...

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M is for…Mind Your Own Business

Mind Your Own Business Byron Katie says that there are three kinds of business in the world: my business, your business and G-d’s business.  She says that much of our discomfort and anxiety comes from getting out of our own business, or allowing others into our business. When we are in other...

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I’m only human, after all

I am a good coach. Actually that is not true – what is more honest is that I am an excellent coach.  As much as it pains me to write that, it is the truth.  I know it is. I am not one to blow my own horn.  I have a superstitious and childlike fear that when I say – never mind write – such...

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E is for…

…Ebb and Flow Like the sea, life is an endless cycle of tides coming in and going out. All aspects of our lives – relationships, work, money, health, growth, - go through cycles of good and bad. When we can see that life is one big cycle of change, with countless smaller cycles within that,...

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Change What You Can

There are many things in life that we can change. The clothes we wear. The colour of our hair. The people we spend time with.  The things we spend time and money on.  The way we think about and respond to events… And then there are the many things that we cannot change. The weather.  The...

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