Items tagged with "saying no":
3 Habits to Reverse Burnout
Every aspect of life is affected by burnout. When we have burnout, we are not just physically tired or emotionally delicate. We don’t just feel existentially unsure or question all our life choices. It’s not only that our brains feel mushy and we struggle to remember things. We are not merely easily...
Women and Burnout
Every year, there is much attention and fanfare about International Women’s day. The week that 8 March falls in is filled with news and views about women and the importance of recognising our importance. While some people are not convinced that there should be a day dedicated to thinking about women...
Plan to Spend Your Energy Wisely
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. ~ The Serenity Prayer Most of us are not short of courage or of wisdom. We are brave and wise beyond our years, and always have been. We have fought hard to...
From AlwaysOn to OftenOff
Happy Equinox! The 21st of March, in addition to being Human Rights Day in South Africa, is the Autumn/Spring Equinox. All over the planet, day and night both last 12 hours - give or take a few minutes. Dark and light are equally balanced. The sun and the stars get equal airtime. Nocturnal creatures...
Rebuild Your Resilience to Recover from Burnout
Have you ever found yourself saying, “if one more person asks me to do something I might crack”? Felt as though you are stretched so far that you fear you might snap? Had a to-do list that took on a life of its own, with each item you tick off being replaced by three or four more? All of...
Sunday Night Blues
You’ve had a wonderful holiday. Resting, relaxing and being in the moment. No worrying about the report that is due, the presentation you need to make at the next meeting, the conversation with your hated boss/client/colleague that you have to have. No work worries at all. But, now, the party is...
Resentment: Relationship Poison (and Its Antidote)
Keith pulls into his driveway after a long day at work. A sense of dread and disappointment descends; his mother-in-law’s car is there. Again. For the third time this week. And it is only Wednesday. Anna overhears her boyfriend inviting 12 of his closest friends to come over for a few drinks and...
How We Reject Ourselves
Life Lesson*: what looks like a desire to protect others from hurt is often a fear-based need to protect ourselves from rejection. I have lost count of the times clients have told me that they can’t speak their truth because to do so would mean hurting someone. And I know that I used to tell myself...
Regaining and Maintaining Your Energy After Burnout
It is halfway through the year already and it is time to take stock of energy levels. Here is a quick quiz to help you assess if you have - or are approaching - burnout: Are you beginning to resent your family, friends and/or co-workers because you feel that you look after everyone else and don't...
Just Because You Can, Doesn’t Mean You Must…
Last week I was in a session with a client who was telling me how she was going to go about applying for a promotion. “I know I can do the job,” she explained to me. “Do you want to do the job?” I asked her. She looked a little surprised. Then a little amused. Then she laughed and...