Just Say No
One of the changes I encourage my clients to make is to stop explaining themselves when they say ‘no’ to something. (I wrote a whole blog on Why it is So Hard to Say No that you may like to read as well.)
I am very committed to helping my clients ‘find their Inner Adult,’ part of which means not having to give excuses for their thoughts and actions.
So whenever I receive a message from a client that says, “I need to cancel my session” without proving an explanation, I am partly very pleased and impressed with them for being so adult and unapologetic.
But another part of me wants to know WHY?
Is it me? Is it them? Is it the money? Is it the time? …..
My imagination can go on a complete bender for a couple of minutes.
Until I find my own Inner Adult and remind myself that it is really their business why they have cancelled and, unless they tell me otherwise, it has nothing to do with me.
And then when I am feeling sufficiently grown up again I realise that the fact that they feel OK to not provide an explanation is testament to the excellent work we have done together.
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