Q is for Quotes
Here are some of my favourites:
Be the change you want to see in the world. Mahatma Ghandi
For me, this quote encapsulates what coaching is all about. It speaks to taking responsibility for what we are not happy with, and what is not working for us, and making changes to how we are, in order to see results in the world around us.
I often adapt this to “Be the change you want to see on your life” and “Be the love you want to see in your life.”
It is all about stepping up, taking charge and making changes in an adult way.
The only way out is through. Robert Frost (and then Alanis Morisette)
Emotional discomfort is more than uncomfortable – it can feel intolerable. Uncertainty can make us feel as though we are going crazy. So it makes sense that when we are hurting and it feels as though everything is falling apart, all we want to do is run away from our feelings.
We try to escape them by drinking, dancing or deception – we pretend to be feeling fine when we aren’t. But the longer we avoid and pretend, the longer the emotions lurk, unseen and unfelt, under the surface of our bravado. And when we stop running, the feelings all come out to play.
The only effective way of getting out of the pain and uncertainty is to move through it.
It is hard. It is sore. It is scary.
But it is honest, and it is the only way!
When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time. Maya Angelou
If we listened to our intuition we would make far better choices about who we spend time with.
Instinct tells us when someone we meet is untrustworthy, unreliable or just plain creepy. But our social self kicks in and tells us why our intuition is wrong. We tell ourselves stories about why people behave the way they do, and make excuses for bad behaviour. We are so set on seeing the best in people that we often don’t allow ourselves to see the truth.
We talk ourselves into being with people who are bad for us, or out of being with people who are good for us.
Allow yourself to see – and believe – the truth that people are showing you.
The world is truly round and seems to start and end with those we love. Nelson Mandela
It is easy to get caught up with the busyness that is life today. We rush from one appointment to the next. We sit in one meeting and plan what we are going to say in the next. We worry about money and paying the bills.
We are so busy rushing around, doing everything in our power to create a good life for ourselves and our loved ones, that we forget to spend real and meaningful time with the people we love. We are so busy building a future that we forget to be in the present.
Pay attention to the ones you love now, don’t wait for tomorrow!
Letting people help you is letting people love you. Judy Klipin*
Asking for help can feel hard for some people. We feel that it makes us appear weak or helpless. We’d rather do it ourselves – that way we can control the outcome. And that way we can pretend to ourselves that we don’t need anything from anyone; that we are entirely self-sufficient.
But by not asking for – or allowing – help we deny the people who love us the opportunity to show us what we mean to them. We reject their support and the demonstration of their appreciation of us.
When we let people help us, we are really allowing them to love us.
What are some of your favourite quotes, and why are they so meaningful to you?
*I guess it can’t really be called a quote if I said it myself!
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