Items tagged with "love":
Survivor Self and Love
Why is that so many adult children people find it difficult to be in an intimate relationship? A staggering proportion of people struggle to find love. Almost as staggering is the struggle to stay in love in a healthy way. Type ‘why can’t I find love?’ into Google and you will get 592 000...
Love and Work
“Love and work are the cornerstones of our humanness.” Way back in 1930 Freud made the observation that much of our life purpose is influenced by our ability to do meaningful work and our ability to love meaningfully. Not much has changed since then. We are still defined – rightly or wrongly–...
True Love
There is nothing like Valentine’s Day and all the publicity and media hype surrounding it to make you hyper-aware of your love-life (or lack thereof). Everywhere you look, there are hearts, cupids and teddy bears on display. I’ve never been a fan of Valentine’s Day. I don’t think there is...
Dump the Situationship for a Real-ationship
I love the concept of a ‘situationship’ (actually I don’t love the concept so much as I love the name for the concept): not a relationship, not a friendship, but an ill-defined situation that exists between two people. We’ve all been there and done that. We meet someone who makes our heart...
Valentine’s Day Blues
The sight of Valentine’s Day paraphernalia in shops can be a little depressing. The in-your-faceness of all that enforced romance is hard enough for people who have an ‘other half’ (be that half better, worse or indifferent). But for people who are not-so-happily unattached, all that stuff is...
M is for…Mind Your Own Business
Mind Your Own Business Byron Katie says that there are three kinds of business in the world: my business, your business and G-d’s business. She says that much of our discomfort and anxiety comes from getting out of our own business, or allowing others into our business. When we are in other...
L is for…
...some lovely words: Live Your own life In the here and now On your terms Life to the fullest Love Yourself Your life Your choices Your world Learn To ask for and accept help To receive love To say "no" To treat yourself as well as you...
Letting People Help You is Letting People Love You
Adult children often prefer to be a helper rather than a helpee. We find it easier to be helpful – sometimes we even feel the need to be indispensable so that we are not forgotten about – than to allow ourselves to be helped. Adult children struggle to ask for help. We think that maybe...