Items tagged with "ask for help":
How to Cure a Case of Novemberitis (and Coviditis)
Every November I post my blog about Novemberitis. This year I have updated it to include the new affliction of Coviditis…. Ah November! Such an in between time of the year. Winter (or summer) has left and summer (or winter) hasn’t arrived. The current year is almost over and the new year hasn’t...
How to Get Ahead of the Lockdown Blues
Right now, many of us are baffled by what and how we are feeling. We fear that we are back in burnout even though we have worked so hard to get over it. We may be feeling irritable and more emotional than usual. Our relationships may become more fraught and conflictual, and we may be finding it extra...
If You Can’t Be With the Job You Love, Love the Job You’re With
A recent Huffington Post story that is doing the rounds talks about the negative effect working in a job you hate has on your health. All of the effects that are listed are also symptoms of burnout. As I frequently maintain, we get burnout from doing too much or too many of the wrong things – the...
Living with Someone Living with Burnout
Living with someone who is living with burnout is, in many ways, as difficult as living with burnout. It can be frustrating. Confusing. Worrying. Boring. Lonely. More than anything it can be lonely. As the burnout tightens its grip, the person experiencing it becomes more and more withdrawn; grumpy,...
Follow Your Own GPS
Do you remember a time before the internet and smartphones? I do (because that’s how old I am). We had to be more mindful about how we were in the world. We had to plan our time better – no messaging a friend to tell them we were running late to meet them. We had to exercise our memories more...
3 Habits to Reverse Burnout
Every aspect of life is affected by burnout. When we have burnout, we are not just physically tired or emotionally delicate. We don’t just feel existentially unsure or question all our life choices. It’s not only that our brains feel mushy and we struggle to remember things. We are not merely easily...
Rebuild Your Resilience to Recover from Burnout
Have you ever found yourself saying, “if one more person asks me to do something I might crack”? Felt as though you are stretched so far that you fear you might snap? Had a to-do list that took on a life of its own, with each item you tick off being replaced by three or four more? All of...
Burnout Makes Us Feel Hapless, Hopeless and Helpless
We all have moments in our lives when we feel a little at sea and as though we have lost our way. When we feel as though we are bobbing around; isolated, lonely and afraid. When we question many of our life choices: work, love, friendships… Like a boat in a storm. We don’t know where we are going...
Sometimes the Best Thing You Can Do for Yourself Is Nothing
You know that feeling of overwhelm? Of having so much to do that you don’t know where to start? That “there’s-too-much-to-do-and-not-enough-time-to-do-it-in-and-I-have-to-do-more-be-more-say-more-earn-more-play-more-love-more-laugh-more-exercise-more-lose-more-weight-eat-fewer-carbs-and-still-be-happy”...
Why Don’t We Pay More Attention to Ourselves?
Last week I gave a free continuing education phone seminar for coaches. The topic was “Understanding and Preventing Compassion Fatigue for Coaches”. Having been on the receiving end of compassion fatigue more than a couple of times, and having witnessed and coached a not inconsiderable number...
Express Yourself
Burnout is a horrible, debilitating condition that we need to understand better so we can manage and prevent it better. Not just the physical manifestations of it, but the thoughts, beliefs and behaviours that give rise to it. I am often asked why people get burnout. There are countless factors that...
Eight Ways to Regain Control
Local and global events have been unsettling and even alarming of late. There is so much that is unpredictable, and out of our control. Rather than allowing that which we can’t change to destabilise us, now is the time to turn our attention to what we can influence and control; our own habits, choices...
Don’t Forget to Remember Yourself
How many times have you got into bed at night and remembered that you forgot to do something you promised yourself that morning? Many of us spend all of our waking moments thinking about others, listening to others and doing things for others. It is often only in the calm and quiet that descends when...
P is for….
...Peace and Quiet We lead such busy lives that often the only time we are still is when we are sleeping. But that means that we don’t make any space for ourselves to be still and reflect – to stop and take stock. That is how it gets to be the 1st of July without our noticing April, May and...
O is for…
...Others-centred The opposite of self-centred, when we are others-centred we put everybody else first and ourselves last. We do what others expect of us - or what we think others expect of us. We feel responsible for others. We consider others before we consider ourselves. It is exhausting...
K is for…
Know If you want to excel at your life you need to learn what makes you tick. Get to know: What you want. Who you are. How you are. Why you are the way you are. What is important to you. What makes you happy. Who makes you happy. What your strengths are. How to set boundaries. Where...
Pick Yourself Up
I am a little preoccupied with the notion of burnout at the moment. Possibly because so many of my clients seem to be in its grip. Possibly because I see a direct correlation between being an adult child and being prone to burnout. Possibly because I seem to be flirting with burnout again. Probably...