Items tagged with "be yourself":
Smash Through Imposter Syndrome
“They must have made a mistake.” “Soon they are going to realise that I am not as competent as they think I am.” “How can they possibly believe that I am good enough to do this?” These are the kinds of stories we tell ourselves when our success and accomplishments feel too good to be...
How to Stay Calm and Centred During the Coronavirus Crisis
We are all on high alert right now, and this is understandable. But panic and negative thinking only add to our adrenaline output which lowers our immunity. South Africans are really good in a crisis, and really good at coming together to reach a common goal and to unite against a common energy. Now,...
Follow Your Own GPS
Do you remember a time before the internet and smartphones? I do (because that’s how old I am). We had to be more mindful about how we were in the world. We had to plan our time better – no messaging a friend to tell them we were running late to meet them. We had to exercise our memories more...
From AlwaysOn to OftenOff
Happy Equinox! The 21st of March, in addition to being Human Rights Day in South Africa, is the Autumn/Spring Equinox. All over the planet, day and night both last 12 hours - give or take a few minutes. Dark and light are equally balanced. The sun and the stars get equal airtime. Nocturnal creatures...
Think Less, Feel More
Have you ever had a time when you just knew something you were doing or thinking about doing was a bad idea, but you went ahead and did it anyway? Most of us have. Not just one time, but many times. We talk ourselves into things that we don’t want to do. We tell ourselves that we should do it...
Achieving Goals That Are TRUE
For years now I have worked with clients who come for coaching to achieve certain goals. They may want to lose weight, find love, leave a relationship, do better at work, leave a job, manage anxiety, recover from burnout….essentially, everyone who comes for coaching wants help in making changes that...
You Are Good Enough As You Are
I work with many clients, from a wide range of backgrounds. Almost all of them share at least some of the characteristics and limiting beliefs of adult children. One of the most common of these is the belief I like to call, “if I were better it would be better.” Growing up, children in chaotic...
D is for…
Do and Don't. We get Do and Don't messages all through our lives. 'Do be careful. Don't take chances. Do make plans. Don't get ahead of yourself.' Here - I hope - are some rather more constructive and liberating ones. Don’t: Talk yourself into things you don’t want to. Talk...
Change What You Can
There are many things in life that we can change. The clothes we wear. The colour of our hair. The people we spend time with. The things we spend time and money on. The way we think about and respond to events… And then there are the many things that we cannot change. The weather. The...
Learn to Live Better
On the treadmill of life, we could all use a little training, writes Andrea Nagel. It’s a new year and we’re buoyed along after the holiday excesses, indulgences and general dodgy behaviour by our week- old resolutions. Still in their infancy, they are unblemished and pure, bright with the promise...