Items tagged with "look after yourself":
Make a Habit of Looking After Yourself
I’ve been thinking a lot about habits lately; good habits, bad habits, habits that used to be good and are now bad, getting out of habits… The last two years have seen most of us adopting and dropping quite a few habits without necessarily being aware of it. I was indulging in my Twitter fix...
Right Now We Are All Feeling Grief
Why am I so grumpy and irritable? Why can’t I sleep through the night? Why do I feel so thin-skinned and overwhelmed? Why is it impossible to concentrate on anything for more than a few minutes? Why – when I have so much to be grateful for and appreciative of during this horrible time – am I so...
How to Stay Calm and Centred During the Coronavirus Crisis
We are all on high alert right now, and this is understandable. But panic and negative thinking only add to our adrenaline output which lowers our immunity. South Africans are really good in a crisis, and really good at coming together to reach a common goal and to unite against a common energy. Now,...
Follow Your Own GPS
Do you remember a time before the internet and smartphones? I do (because that’s how old I am). We had to be more mindful about how we were in the world. We had to plan our time better – no messaging a friend to tell them we were running late to meet them. We had to exercise our memories more...
Less Tired, More Inspired
If I could distil all of the things that my clients most yearn for into two things, they would be: Feeling less tired, and Feeling more inspired. It seems that more and more of us are feeling increased exhaustion and overwhelm, and decreased enthusiasm for things that we used to feel inspired...
Rebuild Your Resilience to Recover from Burnout
Have you ever found yourself saying, “if one more person asks me to do something I might crack”? Felt as though you are stretched so far that you fear you might snap? Had a to-do list that took on a life of its own, with each item you tick off being replaced by three or four more? All of...
Think Less, Feel More
Have you ever had a time when you just knew something you were doing or thinking about doing was a bad idea, but you went ahead and did it anyway? Most of us have. Not just one time, but many times. We talk ourselves into things that we don’t want to do. We tell ourselves that we should do it...
Sometimes the Best Thing You Can Do for Yourself Is Nothing
You know that feeling of overwhelm? Of having so much to do that you don’t know where to start? That “there’s-too-much-to-do-and-not-enough-time-to-do-it-in-and-I-have-to-do-more-be-more-say-more-earn-more-play-more-love-more-laugh-more-exercise-more-lose-more-weight-eat-fewer-carbs-and-still-be-happy”...
Eight Ways to Regain Control
Local and global events have been unsettling and even alarming of late. There is so much that is unpredictable, and out of our control. Rather than allowing that which we can’t change to destabilise us, now is the time to turn our attention to what we can influence and control; our own habits, choices...
You Are Good Enough As You Are
I work with many clients, from a wide range of backgrounds. Almost all of them share at least some of the characteristics and limiting beliefs of adult children. One of the most common of these is the belief I like to call, “if I were better it would be better.” Growing up, children in chaotic...
Nurture Yourself in Nature
What is free, easily accessible and good for your health? Depending on who you are and where you live, you may be thinking: oxygen, wifi, water, sex, happiness, laughter… All of which may be true, but the answer I am looking for is: Nature. Albert Einstein (who was, as we know, a genius)...
Don’t Spend Money You Don’t Have
So you’ve got your certification as a coach. You’ve completed your training, passed your assessments and are ready to go out and change the world and all the people who live in it. And you’re terrified. What if no-one comes? What if I don’t get enough clients? What if I never get any clients? What...
Don’t Forget to Remember Yourself
How many times have you got into bed at night and remembered that you forgot to do something you promised yourself that morning? Many of us spend all of our waking moments thinking about others, listening to others and doing things for others. It is often only in the calm and quiet that descends when...
Self-Sabotage or Self-Rescue?
I often witness clients beating themselves up (sometimes literally as well as figuratively) for getting in their own way. They get really cross with themselves for wasting an opportunity, messing up an interview or not studying hard enough for an exam. “I don’t know what I keep sabotaging myself”...
P is for….
...Peace and Quiet We lead such busy lives that often the only time we are still is when we are sleeping. But that means that we don’t make any space for ourselves to be still and reflect – to stop and take stock. That is how it gets to be the 1st of July without our noticing April, May and...
D is for…
Do and Don't. We get Do and Don't messages all through our lives. 'Do be careful. Don't take chances. Do make plans. Don't get ahead of yourself.' Here - I hope - are some rather more constructive and liberating ones. Don’t: Talk yourself into things you don’t want to. Talk...