Blogs tagged with "writing":

N is for…Not being scared!

Sometimes – alright, often- I stop myself from doing something/s that feels important to me because I worry about how people will respond.  Will they be angry?  Will they be horrified? Will they reject me?  Will they point and laugh at me? Rather than risking the possible fallout, I censor myself. ...

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Please don’t coach me unless I ask you to

Please don’t coach me unless I ask you to

Sometimes I need a good moan.  (Like right now, for instance.)  It lets me get things off my chest, process some yucky feelings, and maybe even feel a little sorry for myself or grumpy about certain things. And that is OK. Because out of my sorry-soup comes self-compassion, clarity and creativity. Often...

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Blogger’s Block

I am sitting in my favourite coffee shop, trying to write a blog. I am up to ‘N’ in my Alphabet Blog Coaching series – a series of blogs that aims to give readers some insight into the concepts and tools I use in my coaching practice.  I thought through what I wanted to say while I was brushing...

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Re-entry Issues and Burnout

I truly believe that burnout is verging on epidemic proportions and is under-recognised as the scourge that it is. I will get off my soap box for now (I have developed a 6 week burnout recovery self-study programme in case you are interested in finding out more about how to regain and maintain your own...

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Tyred Out

I have had a slow puncture in one of the wheels on my car for some time now.  It started with a 4 inch nail piercing my tyre while I was driving to the airport at 4am in December.  The nice men at the service station kindly patched the wheel up and sent me on my way, but the leak has been getting progressively...

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“Why do women have affairs with married men?”

“Why do women have affairs with married men?”   A journalist is writing a story about this for Cosmopolitan magazine and wants my input. The thing is, I don’t know why women, in general, have affairs with married men.  If I did I would have my own talk-show and be rich and famous. But I don’t. ...

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Telling My Own Story

One of the recurring themes in my practice is working with my clients to help them to identify where they are being ‘others-centred.’  Where they are putting other people’s needs (real or imagined) above their own.  We all do it  - try to look after others at our own expense.  We don’t mean...

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Saying What I Want to Say

It is almost the end of the month already!  That means newsletter time looms.  I am not quite sure why the prospect of writing a newsletter feels like a looming responsibility rather than a treat. It isn’t that I don’t like writing, because I do.  In fact I love it.   I think it is the (entirely...

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Allowing Myself to Allow…

Yesterday I was in the horns of a dilemma: to apply for a job I was asked to apply for, or to say "thanks but no thanks". After some agonizing I let it go and decided to trust the process- the right decision would come to me when I allowed it to. I had asked if the position could be a flexi- or part-time...

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A Spoonful of My Own Medicine

I hate/love it when I get asked to apply for jobs that I’m not looking for.  Just as I am settling into a great coaching/consulting/writing groove, along comes an email that asks me to apply for a post. This is the third time this year that it has happened to me. The first time it was a no-brainer...

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The Spirit is Willing…..

I am tired.  The kind of happy, contented, feel-good tired that comes from coaching up a storm all day. When I first started coaching my plan for myself was to see 15 clients a week and run one weekend workshop a month.  I was quite put out when one of the coach trainers told me that I was being too...

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What we Resist, Persists

The paradoxical theory of change is an idea from Gestalt therapy that argues that the harder we try to be different, the more we remain the same - the “what we resist persists” idea that Martha Beck teaches her coaches.  It is only when we are able to accept and make peace with what really is without...

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Why a Blog on Real Life Coaching?

Welcome to my new blog! There are three reasons I decided to embark on this journey: Firstly, I love writing.  It helps me to organize my thoughts, sparks new ideas and understandings, and allows me to express myself.  It also (hopefully) helps others along the way. But I don’t do enough of it. ...

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